Navigating Dating Apps: Spotting Red Flags in Profiles
In the digital age, dating apps have revolutionized how roughly 349 million users worldwide meet potential partners, offering a convenient way to connect with others outside of our typical social circles. However, as we swipe left and right, it's crucial to be mindful of the dating danger signs.
According to Brianna McCabe, author of The Red Flags I’ve (Repeatedly) Ignored, “Recognizing red flags on different dating profiles can help you identify potential issues early on, which ultimately saves you time, emotional energy, and may even protect you from harmful situations.”
For online daters, many of whom average around 51 minutes per day on relationship apps, McCabe outlines five red flags that users should be mindful of and offers actionable insights for each.
Red flag #1: Lack of information
“A profile with little to no information should sound the alarm,” warns McCabe. As explained by the self-help dating author, the user may be hiding something, such as their true identity, or they might not be serious about finding a meaningful connection.
“It could also mean they're lazy or uninterested in putting effort into their dating life,” adds McCabe.
What to do: If you come across a profile with minimal information, McCabe suggests proceeding with caution. “You can try to engage them in conversation to learn more, but be wary if they remain evasive or give vague answers,” she adds.
Red flag #2: Too good to be true
If someone's profile reads like a dream – you know, the perfect job, perfect looks, perfect life – there's a chance it might be fabricated. “Scammers often create idealized profiles to lure in unsuspecting victims,” says McCabe.
The author also expresses that as humans, we are all imperfectly perfect – so a profile showcasing only the most flattering of photos or information could be a tactic to hide their authentic self, potentially out of insecurity or dishonesty.
What to do: Do some research. “Reverse image search on Google should be your best friend,” says McCabe.
Additionally, pay attention to any inconsistencies in their stories and be skeptical if things seem a little too perfect.
Red flag #3: Overly-sexual content
Profiles that focus heavily on sexual content or innuendos can be a sign that the person is looking for something casual rather than a serious relationship – or it might also indicate a lack of respect for potential partners.
“If your intention is to settle down and meet a loving partner, this should be a clear indicator that your goals and values are misaligning,” shares McCabe.
What to do: If you're looking for a meaningful relationship, it's best to avoid profiles that make you uncomfortable with their explicit content. Trust your instincts and move on if it feels off.
Red flag #4: Reluctance to share personal details
While privacy is important, a complete reluctance to share basic personal information, such as their occupation or where they live, can be a sign of deception, a lack of trust, or potential emotional unavailability.
What to do: Ask open-ended questions and gauge their willingness to share. “If they consistently dodge personal questions, it might be best to end the conversation,” recommends McCabe.
Red flag #5: Negative or hostile language
Profiles filled with negativity, complaints, or hostile language towards others (including their exes) can indicate a problematic attitude or unresolved issues – and this negativity can carry over into any future potential relationship.
What to do: Pay attention to the tone of their profile. If it feels excessively negative or hostile, it's a good idea to steer clear. “A positive and respectful attitude is key in any relationship,” adds McCabe.
While navigating dating apps can feel both exciting and daunting, being aware of the red flags can help to better increase the odds of finding an authentic, lasting connection.
Nearly 70% of individuals who met someone on a dating app said it led to a romantic, exclusive relationship – so McCabe adds, “You never know when the right connection might happen.”
TO LEARN MORE ABOUT dating deal breakers and red flags, GRAB A COPY OF BRIANNA MCCABE’S SELF-HELP DATING BOOK, THE RED FLAGS I'VE (REPEATEDLY) IGNORED.