5 Tips to Combat Feelings of Loneliness this Valentine’s Day
Valentine’s Day can feel like a magnifying glass on your relationship status, especially if you’re single. While couples are sharing romantic dinners or exchanging gifts and love notes, it’s easy to feel left out. But here’s the thing: you’re far from alone. According to the U.S. Census Bureau, over 124 million adults are single—that’s nearly 40% of the population. Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be a source of loneliness; it can be a chance to celebrate yourself and the life you’re building.
“Being single doesn’t mean you’re incomplete,” shares Brianna McCabe, self-help dating author of The Red Flags I’ve (Repeatedly) Ignored. “It means you have the freedom to design your life exactly how you want it.”
With that in mind, here are five ways to counteract loneliness and make Valentine’s Day meaningful—just for you.
Do something you enjoy.
Use Valentine’s Day as an opportunity to do something that brings you joy. Whether it’s binging your favorite show, cooking your go-to comfort meal, or tackling that creative project you’ve been putting off, immersing yourself in an activity you love can help shift the focus from what you don’t have to what fulfills you.
“When you invest time in something that genuinely makes you happy, you’re proving to yourself that you’re worth your own attention,” McCabe emphasizes. This Valentine’s Day, consider it a date with your passions.
Pamper yourself.
Who says pampering has to come from someone else? Take this day to indulge in some self-care. Treat yourself to a spa day at home with a bubble bath, face mask, or your favorite skincare routine. Splurge on a massage or a new outfit that makes you feel amazing. Even something as simple as lighting a scented candle and listening to calming music can set the tone for a relaxing evening.
“Self-care is a form of self-respect. By pampering yourself, you’re sending a message that you’re worth the effort,” McCabe adds.
Spend time with loved ones.
Valentine’s Day isn’t just for romantic relationships. It’s a perfect time to celebrate the love you share with friends and family. Organize a game night, host a dinner, or even plan a Galentine’s night with your girls who may also be single. Connection is one of the best remedies for loneliness.
Being around people who make you feel seen and valued can remind you that love exists in many forms. Whether it’s laughter over a shared meal or a heartfelt conversation, these moments can make the day truly special.
Send yourself a valentine.
Why not be your own Valentine? Write yourself a heartfelt letter, expressing gratitude for your strengths, accomplishments, and resilience. Order flowers or chocolates and have them delivered to your door. Taking the time to celebrate yourself can reinforce your self-worth and bring joy to the day.
“When you acknowledge your own worth, you’re setting the standard for how others should treat you,” McCabe explains.
Focus on the positives of being single.
Instead of dwelling on what you’re missing, take a moment to appreciate the perks of being single. You have the freedom to prioritize your needs, explore your interests, and focus on your personal growth without compromise.
Being single also gives you the opportunity to build a solid relationship with yourself—the foundation for any future partnership.
“The time you spend single isn’t wasted; it’s preparation. It’s your chance to become the best version of yourself,” McCabe says.
Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be about what you lack. It’s a day to celebrate love in all its forms—including the love you have for yourself. By doing things that bring you joy, pampering yourself, spending time with loved ones, and shifting your focus to the positives of being single, you can create a meaningful day that’s all about you. After all, you deserve it.
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